In my younger days, I seldom worried about routine injuries and illnesses. I assumed that I would eventually recover. And I always did.

At Silver Lake, we can no longer assume we will recover, let alone recover entirely. There comes a point when old bodies can no longer fully self-repair.

Even when we replace knees, hips, and shoulders, something of our former ability is lost. The trauma associated with major operations or severe illness can affect our minds as well as our bodies.

Here at Silver Lake, I see two general reactions to physical and mental loss. One is denial, anger, and frustration. The other is acceptance and accommodation.

Those who accept and accommodate seem to have happier lives. The accommodation may be walking sticks, walkers, or even wheelchairs. It is often new medications. Yes, we grumble, but we accommodate and move on.

Those of us who are still mobile can help others accommodate. We can walk alongside at their pace. We offer an arm or a hand.

Neighbors deliver packages left in the mailroom to save them a step. We pick up meals for them and drop them off at their apartments.

Silver Lake is a community of accommodation.